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- May 17, 2008
Christian Women Who Love Sex
I am a conservative Christian wife and mother and I love sex. Every Sunday morning, I attend church. Every school morning, I take my son to school. Every weekday afternoon, I kiss my husband when he gets home from work. Every evening, I cook supper for my family, and almost every night, I close my bedroom door to partake in my favorite cardio activity: sex.
While I proclaim boldly that I love sex, many of my Christian female friends do not. In fact, when I bring up my sexual appetite and prowess, my friends react like children and giggle or stare at me in dismay. My Christian friends aren’t the only ones who act surprised when I vocalize my love of sex.
Somehow it has become an oxymoron to be a Christian woman and sexual. Often times the church encourages silence on issues regarding sex. Don Joy, professor of human development and family studies at Asbury Theological Seminary and author of several books about intimacy and marriage, says that the silence of the church insinuates shame and that often there is no accounting for the power of shame. Yet also surrounded by images of sex in pop culture, Christian women often develop conflicting views on what is appropriate.
However, God wants us to celebrate sex. The Bible includes an entire book on the expression of love. In Song of Songs, King Solomon describes acts of sexual love, often using erotic lyrics like “Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth … Take me away with you — let us hurry! Let the king bring me into his chambers.” In Songs the female, as well as the male, vocalizes her sexual desire and experiences.
Patsy Rae Dawson, author of “Marriage: A Taste of Heaven, Vol. II: God’s People Make the Best Lovers,” states that surveys conducted by both secular and Christian groups show that God’s people make the best lovers. Dawson also says, and listen closely, “A truly uninhibited person enjoys his spouse to the fullest with the blessings of a clear conscience.”
Not only should Christian women embrace their sexuality, but they should also realize almost any sexual act within the confines of marriage is acceptable and healthy. True sexual liberation for the Christian woman comes with the ability to welcome uninhibited love with her husband. Furthermore, Christian women should enjoy a hot, slammin’ sex life.
Written by: Leslie Niswonger for The University Daily Kansan newspaper
7 Responses to “Christian Women Who Love Sex”
I am 50 yrs old and wish I had the desire to be more sexual! That appetite you mentioned just isn’t there for me. I enjoy it occaisionally, but don’t NEED it all that often. I do however LOVE my husband and enjoy being with him both sexually and non-sexually. I had a hysterectomy YEARS ago, and this did seem to make a difference. I’ve tried testeosterone, and it helped, but I broke out in acne ALL OVER especially in my hair follicles, weird, huh? I also had breast tumors so I’m totally afraid of hormones!
By Debbie on May 22, 2008
This is great news for all of us single men who desire “a righteous godly fox” in our lives and need to pray for that “Song of Solomon relationship” and Proverbs 31 woman, but we also need to be Proverbs 31 type of men also that are worthy of all of you “sexually charged Christian nymphos that will take us to the moon sexually speaking – lol . Thanks Tony D
By tony della vecchia on Sep 13, 2009
I am a Christian woman who is married and I Love sex…same as the article above kinda anytime anywhere…I love it…My problem is that my husband can not perform…it has been yrs. since we have functioned correctly..we have sought out all kinds of help..Drs. counselors..prayer…
Honestly we resorted to toys..etc. Nothing helps..my body desires the real deal and other things and masturbation only heighten the desire and I am left worked up and no outlet…I do NOT with hold myself from him or his pleasure because I am not suppose to do this…The desire has become SO strong for me I feel I will explode….Not touching does not solve the problem..
Now we have become kinda separate…there is little sensuality in our relationship and now having sex with him and his approach feels make me feel like a servicer instead of someone that is loved..he has turned to drinking and that raises up more issues…I understand it must be horrifying to be a man and deal with this issue…I also know that I am about ready to self combust…I almost did..I almost broke with pretty much a stranger….Thanks God I did not…but I almost threw my hands in the air…I don’t want to mess up my Christian walk…I do not want bring dishonor to God or my family..I can Not shut this off…what do I do????
By Sandra on Nov 25, 2009
Well, call me ‘old-fashioned’, but I don’t know WHY we all need to know anyway????
If people want to brag about their sexual appetite, I can’t help but feel something else is going on??
Some things I like to keep to myself….
By Debbie Stevens on Nov 25, 2009
Sandra
What you are going through must be hard for you. I can only imagine. Prayer is a powerful thing. Probably not what you wanted to hear, but it works.
By Karen O'Bannon on Nov 28, 2009
Wow. I came across this article and I am very glad to know that there are christian women who really enjoy love-making within a loving marriage. I am a single christian man who is still waiting for his Ruth who will enjoy love making as well.
Sandra, I am very sorry to hear about your situation with your husband. I want to encourage you to look at herbs and other natural approaches to treat your husband’s sexual problem. I would suggest that you have him see a christian herbalist who can treat his problem with herbs that have no side effects. Also, prayer is very powerful in solving this problem as well.
Good Luck and God Bless You
By Perry on Dec 19, 2009
Perry,
Thank you for searching and finding this weblog and article. YOur comments are welcomed and appreciated. It’s always nice to get a man’s perspective on what we, as women, write about. Keep reading and offering your insightful comments.
By Beverly on Dec 19, 2009