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- July 26, 2009
Does the ‘Real World’ Still Exist?
My vote is the latter.
Social networking sites like Facebook, MySpace, Naymz.com, LinkedIn and even the microblogging site Twitter all should supplement your daily personal and work interactions, and NEVER serve as a substitute for face-to-face encounters.
Sure, it’s a lot easier to log onto your favorite site, type for a few minutes – maybe IM someone or “send a drink request” via Facebook — than scraping off your car in the dead of winter to fight traffic, or take a train, plane, taxi or bus to meet someone.
But, I ask you to consider … what price do you pay for this comfort?
A friend’s hurt feelings? A confused client? Upset relatives?
Reading words on a screen, even with a video and/or audio element added, is and never will be the same as having a real dialogue in person.
Many times there are subtle nuances to communication and body language that “speak” far greater than actual words. How does this non-spoken “conversation” get conveyed online?
It can’t. But, worse, yet, often the message being sent and even its tone are misunderstood or misconstrued by the recipients.
Before you drop your Internet access, I’m not suggesting that you close your online accounts, and resolve to meet everyone in your network once a week or even monthly.
I am simply reminding everyone of the importance of a phone call and in-person encounter.
So, the next time you consider sending your former colleague a friend request, sit back, log off, and pick up the phone.
Or, schedule a visit the next time you’re in his or her neighborhood.
I guarantee you that the impact you make in reconnecting with this person in such a manner, will far exceed the actual cost of the call or gas in your car.
Nothing speaks volumes more than a real-life hug or handshake.
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3 Responses to “Does the ‘Real World’ Still Exist?”
Hi Marjorie,
Thanks for sharing your true insight about the social media network. Today’s world can still still really exist. Even in twitter, facebook, etc, a good real relationship can still be existed. But it is already the usual numbers and ways.
By Vic on Aug 12, 2009
Thanks for this timely post. I am re-exploring the power of a handwritten note also.
By rosie on Aug 15, 2009
Marjorie
I agree that it’s nice to be face to face. But I see social media connections as a way to help people who are lonely or disabled, or don’t have the means to connect with the “real world”. You can make deep connections on social media networks. But yes face to face is better but nowadays I can’t keep up with friends and family without my facebook to facebook connection.
By Linda Hampton RN MSN on Nov 4, 2009