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- January 25, 2010
When Social Media Relationships Go Bad…
Guest Post by: Wendy Y Bailey
I’m certain you’ve met people through Facebook, your blog or even Twitter. You connect with a few select friends and followers who are genuine professionals with solid reputations in the world of social media. Even though you’ve never actually met the people in person – you connect, tweet and in some cases, collaborate and partner.
What happens when these relationships go bad? What do you do about it?
When these relationships go bad, remember that people show up in everything they do just as they are. You can see it if you take time to observe, listen and feel what’s real and true. This is a time when patience as a virtue pays big. When people are less than gracious in their interactions, it doesn’t really change over time. Pay attention!
Keep in mind that social media creates a false sense of professionalism. The informality of 140 characters often masks less than favorable character flaws. True professionalism is present no matter what happens in the relationship. Make sure you always maintain an attitude of professionalism even when the other person has a foul or unprofessional attitude. You have a duty to yourself to be the bigger person at all times. It’s those challenging times that truly bring out the best in each of us.
Own your own stuff by acknowledging your contributions to the problem. Yes, you played a role, too! Personal responsibility is huge and the sooner you face it, the better off you can be. Remember, not everyone sees the world through the same lens that you do. Reflect on how you can learn and grow from the experience. Apply these “learnings”
in the future to ensure social media relationship success.
My mother always taught me to choose my friends carefully. Being somewhat of a rebel, I’ve always trusted until something came up that gave me a reason to question the trust. It’s the know-like-trust factor! In that very order, you must invest the time getting to know your Facebook friends and Twitter followers. Take your time getting to know your select friends’ character and strengths. Follow your heart to determine if you truly like the person and your values are aligned. Then – and only then, are you able to trust and continue building the relationship. Then, you’re able to connect, collaborate, partner and definitely entrust your friendships in social media.
What are your thoughts? How do you handle social media relationships gone bad? I’d love to know your comments.
2 Responses to “When Social Media Relationships Go Bad…”
Great information Wendy. I’ve had my share of problems via forums mainly when someone wants me to run things their way. Usually they are not familiar with the history of events prior to them becoming a member but they prove troublesome in a short space of time. I weather it for a while but if they persist I cut them loose and ignore their emails as well as unregister them on the forum. On Twitter I don’t wait that long – if someone tweets something that goes against the grain I unfollow them straight away.
By Kathie M Thomas on Feb 2, 2010
You bring up a good point, WendyY. I’ve had a couple of “social networking buddies” really show their “behinds”. The thing is that, when people react out of desperation or fear, they are hardly ever conscious about how much of their underlying nature they are revealing. It’s been a great lesson to learn.
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