Posted by Beverly on
February 17, 2013
Guest Post from BDN member: Lynn Bardowski
Hearing two different women business owners share the same story this week reminded me that I’ve heard their story before. As we discussed who they were communicating their million dollar vision to, they both started the conversation with an apology (not a good sign), and shared that the people closest to them had no idea they had started a business. Or, had a website. Or, that they were so passionate about their business they were losing sleep over it. In a good way. The conversation went something like, “I’m sorry to say that my (fill in the blank with the name of those closest to you) doesn’t know I’m doing this.” I’ve heard this story many times over my last 23 years as a business coach and mentor. Why are are so many women hiding their true passion, afraid to open the door and share their dreams with those closest to them? The common answer is FEAR - fear of failure, fear of success, fear of putting ourselves out there to be judged by the people we know and love the most. Our inner circle knows the “real” us, right? I don’t think they do. It’s the reason I titled the first chapter of my book, “You’re Not Who Everyone Thinks You Are.”
Here are 5 Things You Can Do To Stop Hiding Your True Passion:
1. Stop worrying about what your friends, family, co-workers, cousins or the neighbor next door thinks about you. While it might be easier said than done, realize that their judgement is based on a lack of belief in themselves, not you. They are not capable of supporting you to come out of hiding because they’ve locked themselves into their own limiting beliefs. It’s their “shift”, not yours.
2. Go Full Monty. Letting the real you shine through is a lot like being naked. Suddenly, there’s no place to hide and you’re out in public during bright daylight. You feel exposed and vunerable, wishing you had a pair of invisible Spanx to put on. Have you ever been on a Caribbean vacation with a “clothing optional” beach? You’d think everyone would be staring, but when everyone is naked, no one seems to really care.
3. Free Your Dreams And You’ll Free Your Fears. Letting the real you out is scary and exhilarating all at the same time, kind of like a roller coaster. Let’s face it, it can be a wild ride. After you’ve faced the “Demon Roller” you’ll be ready to conquer the world! When everyone knows you’ve acted on your passion and purpose, there’s nothing left to stop you.
4. Take Responsibility For Keeping Your Passion A Secret. Hiding is such a convenient excuse as to why we’re not getting to where we want to be. We could totally be a success “if only” we could get out. That excuse plays well until you show up at an event and discover that your cousin just started her own business and is soliciting everyone to get the word out. Ouch. It’s not her fault she’s getting all the biz, she had no idea what you were up to.
5. Be Proud, Out Loud. If you’re not shouting your vision off the highest roof top, why would anyone believe in you, your business or your product? It takes courage, belief, persistence and determination to act on your passion and purpose. Proudly celebrate your achievement and set out to be the best in your field. As Steve Martin said, “Be so good they can’t ignore you.” And don’t keep it a secret.
Lynn Bardowski is a 23-year entrepreneur, best selling author, national speaker, mentor and radio show host. For insights on entrepreneurship, leadership and vision, read her book, listen to her radio show, follow her blog and “LIKE” her Facebook page.
Posted by Beverly on
June 23, 2008
Unexplained skin irritations, itchy rashes—it happens to millions of Americans and many say they have no idea what causes the breakouts. According to experts jewelry allergies are not only extremely common, but very simple to prevent.
“We see it quite frequently,” says Lisa Garner, M.D., dermatologist on the medical staff at Baylor Medical Center at Garland. “Some patients come in and actually realize what’s going on and others do not have any idea what’s causing their rash.”
For millions of Americans the problem is nickel.
“The most common metal to be allergic to is nickel and any metal that looks silver-ish in color has nickel in it to some degree,” explains Dr. Garner.
Getting diagnosed is the first step to stopping the breakouts, but treating them is not so simple.
“The only real treatment for an allergy like this is to avoid contact with items like this,” adds Dr. Garner.
Sounds easy, but nickel can be found in practically anything metal. Dermatologists say a big help are test kits that can be used to detect nickel in items you’re considering wearing.
“You could test the fasteners on your jeans, the metal belt buckles on your belts, etc.,” says Dr. Garner.
Determining whether or not your rashes or irritations are the result of an allergy to nickel is pretty simple. If it is something you’re wearing that’s causing you to break out, simply not wearing it should cause it to go away quickly and not return. Also, your dermatologist can give you a patch test to double-check.
Are these allergies more common in certain people? It is more common in women and most common in women who have their ears pierced.
Posted by Beverly on
June 12, 2008
Now that fellow baby boomer Hillary Clinton has suspended her campaign and made nice with Barack Obama, the question is will she be his running mate come November?
Most Obama supporters object to the idea while Hillary supporters say it is the smart thing to do. Hillary supporters believe it will ensure a democratic victory in November.
But If Not Hillary, Then Who?
A number of names come to mind: New Mexico Governor Bill Richardson, Ohio Rep. Dennis Kucinich, Texas Congressman Ron Paul or what about General Colin Powell. What do you think?
Posted by Beverly on
May 24, 2008
The older I get, the more I learn. That’s one of the reasons I appreciate aging—because it comes with wisdom. The stupid, crazy things I did 20 and 30 years ago no longer matter, but they did teach me how to grow up and move on. Even thought these “life lessons” have been floating around cyberspace for quite a while, there are lessons I have taken to heart:
- The Lord didn’t do it all in one day. What makes me think I can?
- Money doesn’t buy class.
- The best classroom in the world is at the feet of an elderly person.
- We should be glad God doesn’t give us everything we ask for.
- It’s those small daily happenings that make life so spectacular.
- Everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs while you’re climbing it.
- Under everyone’s hard shell is someone who wants to be appreciated and loved.
- I can always pray for someone when I don’t have the strength to help him in some other way.
- Sometimes all a person needs is a hand to hold and a heart to understand.
- Being kind is more important than being right.
- Never say no to a gift from a child.
- Having a child fall asleep in your arms is one of the most peaceful feelings in the world.
- A drive to McDonald’s with my parents when I was a child did wonders for me as an adult.
- The less time I have to work, the more things I get done.
- Life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer it gets to the end, the faster it goes.
What have you learned?